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Maybe you spent years, or your whole life so far, inside a relationship, a family system, or a group that told you exactly who to be, what to believe, and who you could trust. Maybe leaving felt like the right choice, or the only choice, and yet now that you're out, you're left standing in an unfamiliar kind of quiet, unsure who you actually are without the structure that used to define you.

That disorientation is normal. It doesn't mean something is wrong with you. It means you're in the early, often disorienting stages of coming back to yourself, a process that takes real time and real care. Many people in this position describe a strange grief, missing the certainty of the old structure even while knowing it wasn't good for them. Others describe a kind of vertigo, not knowing which of their beliefs, preferences, and instincts are actually theirs, and which were shaped or imposed by someone else.

I often work with adults navigating:

• Identity loss or confusion after leaving a controlling relationship or high-control group
• Rebuilding self-trust after being made to doubt your own perception
• Recovering from sustained bullying, exclusion, or coercive control
• Untangling who you are from who you were expected to be
• Setting boundaries for the first time, and learning to hold them
• Restoring relationships you can actually trust, including the one with yourself
• Making sense of grief that doesn't fit neatly, for the structure, the community, or the people you've had to leave behind

What this work can look like:
This isn't about arriving at a fixed answer to "who am I" and being done. It's a gradual process of noticing, questioning gently, and rebuilding, one value, one preference, one boundary at a time. Some sessions might focus on processing specific memories or events. Others might be quieter, simply practicing what it feels like to trust your own judgment on something small. I use trauma-informed approaches throughout, which means your pace and your boundaries shape the work, not a set program or timeline.

You don't need to have language for everything that happened yet, or even be certain it counts as "bad enough" to bring here. If something in you is asking for support, that's reason enough.

I also offer couples counselling for relationships affected by this kind of experience, since rebuilding identity often has ripple effects on the people closest to you too.

Maybe there's a moment, or a stretch of time, that still lives in your body more than your memory. A reaction that feels bigger than the situation calls for. A sense of bracing for something, even when nothing is actually wrong right now. Trauma doesn't always look like what you'd expect, it isn't only large, dramatic events. It can be a single incident or something that unfolded slowly over years, and either way, it can leave a mark that shapes how you see yourself, other people, and the world, long after the original event has passed.

Some people come to this work already knowing exactly what happened to them. Others come with a vaguer sense that something isn't right, without a clear story attached yet, and that's completely okay too.

I often work with adults navigating:

• The lasting effects of a single traumatic event
• Long-term or repeated trauma from a relationship, family, or environment
• Reactions or triggers that feel disproportionate to the present moment
• Hypervigilance, or a persistent sense of being unsafe even in safe situations
• Difficulty trusting your own memory or perception of what happened
• Nightmares, flashbacks, or intrusive thoughts
• Wanting to process the past without being overwhelmed or retraumatised by it

What this work can look like:
Trauma work is paced deliberately. We start by building a foundation of safety and stability before doing any deeper processing, so the work never asks more of your nervous system than it can currently handle. Using trauma-informed therapy and grounding techniques, we work gradually, sometimes talking directly about what happened, sometimes focusing on the present-day patterns it created, always guided by what feels manageable to you in that session. There's no requirement to relive events in vivid detail before you're ready, and for some people, that day never needs to come at all for real healing to happen.

Maybe your thoughts won't settle, even when there's nothing immediately wrong. A constant hum of worry, a dread you can't quite pin to anything specific, or a mind that's always three steps ahead, bracing for what might go wrong next. Anxiety can be exhausting precisely because it often has no clear off switch, it can colour ordinary decisions, conversations, and quiet moments with a low-level sense of threat that's hard to explain to people who don't experience it the same way.

I often work with adults navigating:

• General or persistent worry that's hard to switch off
• Panic attacks, or a fear of them happening
• Social anxiety or a fear of judgement
• Racing thoughts that interfere with sleep or focus
• Anxiety tied to specific decisions, relationships, or life changes
• Physical symptoms of anxiety, like a racing heart, tight chest, or restlessness
• Wanting practical tools alongside a deeper understanding of what's actually driving it

What this work can look like:
Anxiety work usually moves on two tracks at once, practical strategies you can use in the moment when worry spikes, and slower, deeper work to understand what's underneath the pattern in the first place. Using evidence-based approaches, mindfulness, and personalised talk therapy, we work together to identify what's actually driving the anxiety, whether that's past experience, current circumstances, or a mix of both, and build a toolkit that's specific to you rather than generic advice you've probably already tried. The goal isn't to eliminate anxiety entirely, some worry is a normal part of life, it's to help you feel like you're no longer at its mercy.

Maybe getting through an average day takes more energy than it used to. A low motivation that doesn't quite have a clear cause. A sadness, or a numbness, that sits underneath everything else, making things that used to feel simple, getting out of bed, replying to messages, feel disproportionately heavy. Depression can show up during a difficult season with a clear trigger, or as something more ongoing and harder to explain, and both are valid reasons to seek support.

I often work with adults navigating:

• Low mood, motivation, or energy that's persisted for a while
• A sense of numbness or disconnection from things you used to enjoy
• Depression tied to a specific life event or transition
• Ongoing or recurring low periods without an obvious trigger
• Difficulty maintaining relationships, routines, or self-care
• Feeling like you're going through the motions rather than living
• Wanting support alongside, or instead of, medication

What this work can look like:
We start by understanding your particular experience of depression, since it doesn't look the same for everyone, some people feel deep sadness, others feel mostly numb or flat, and others feel irritable more than sad. Using approaches like DBT, interpersonal therapy, and strength-based strategies, we work to identify what's underneath the heaviness, build small, sustainable steps back toward connection and clarity, and address the specific patterns keeping the low mood in place. This work often moves slowly at first, and that's expected, depression can make even small changes feel like a lot, and the pace of the work respects that.

Maybe you're in the middle of something shifting, a career change, a relationship ending or beginning, a move, a loss, a major milestone like becoming a parent or retiring. Even when a change is the right one, or one you actively chose, it can still bring up stress, uncertainty, and a strange kind of grief for the life or identity you're leaving behind, alongside whatever excitement or relief you also feel.

I often work with adults navigating:

• Career changes, job loss, or career uncertainty
• The beginning or end of a significant relationship
• Relocation, whether local or international
• Becoming a parent, or other major family changes
• Retirement or other identity-shifting milestones
• Health changes that require adjusting your sense of self or your future
• A general sense of "what now" after a big life change, even a positive one

What this work can look like:
Life transitions counselling often starts by simply making space for the complexity of what you're feeling, because change rarely produces one clean emotion, it's usually several at once, and sometimes contradictory ones. Using a personalised, evidence-based approach, we work together to process what's shifting, clarify the direction you actually want to move in rather than the one that feels expected of you, and build the stability and self-awareness to move forward with more confidence. This work can be shorter-term if you're navigating one specific transition, or ongoing if the change is part of a bigger unfolding period in your life.

Maybe you're carrying a loss that doesn't fit neatly into what people usually mean by grief, the loss of a person, yes, but also possibly a relationship, your health, an identity, or a future you'd imagined for yourself that isn't going to happen now. Grief can bring sadness, anger, numbness, guilt, or confusion, often all at once and often in an order that doesn't match what you've been told grief is "supposed" to look like.

I often work with adults navigating:

• The loss of a loved one, recent or long-standing
• The end of a significant relationship
• Loss of health, ability, or independence
• Grieving a future or identity that didn't turn out as expected
• Complicated grief, where the relationship to what was lost was difficult or ambivalent
• Grief that others may not fully recognise or understand, sometimes called disenfranchised grief
• Wanting a space to feel your grief fully, without needing to "move on" on someone else's timeline

What this work can look like:
Grief work is rarely linear, and I won't ask you to move through it in stages or on a schedule. Using gentle, evidence-based approaches, we work together toward healing and adjustment at whatever pace feels honest to your experience, sometimes talking directly about what or who you've lost, sometimes simply sitting with feelings that don't have words yet. The goal isn't to "get over" your loss or reach some tidy resolution, it's to find a way of carrying it that allows you to keep living fully, nurturing connection to what mattered while also making room for your own ongoing wellbeing.